You're willing to move completely out of your comfort zone, even if you're nervous. You ask for help and trust your teammates to do their part. You have a “can do” mindset, so you are open to possibilities and solutions. You make decisions based on the belief that you will succeed, not out of fear.
When you play not to lose, you're timid in your actions, and you're not willing to take some risks.
The fear of failure is taking up too much energy, and you may be inadvertently holding yourself back. Playing not to lose also allows that inner critic to get louder and louder and be more in control than that still knowing on the inside and trusting yourself.
But just think – whatever these big, out of your comfort zone goals are - when you show up as the leader you know you are and you’re playing to win – then when you achieve them, it will feel deeply satisfying because these kind of goals are both meaningful and challenging.
Each time you evaluate your goals and the progress that's been made to date, be sure to ask yourself if you are playing to win or playing not to lose.