Your thoughts and language reflect how confident you feel and are perceived by others. The more your thoughts are of a “can do” attitude, the words you use for self-talk as well as shared with others will reflect this way of thinking. As the affirming thoughts and words keep playing on your mental loop, you will exude confidence.
To bring this full circle, let’s say you were asked to give a presentation to a large group. And let's say that it's either your first one for this magnitude or public speaking is something you've yet to become more confident in doing.
What would your first thought be? What would you initially feel? And what would you tell yourself?
So, let’s say that you felt unsure of yourself and really didn’t want to do it, how might you shift this feeling and thought so that you felt more confidence delivering the presentation? Instead of allowing the negative thoughts and feelings replay over and over in your mind, try telling yourself...
“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” – Jane Goodall
I love this quote!
It puts into perspective how we as leaders influence our businesses and organizations every day with every interaction and every decision. This quote also reinforces the guiding principle behind one of my all-time favorite books, The Magic of Thinking Big by Dr. David J. Schwartz, which is “You are what you think you are.”
Take a moment and think about that for yourself – you are what you think you are.
What have your thoughts been?
That perspective shapes our filter on what we see, what we say, and what we do. We all have times when we can get into our heads and not even realize that we have started down a path of self-doubt.
And could thoughts have influenced your decisions?
One show I absolutely loved when it was out and still watch the reruns is TLC's What Not To Wear! I love the process of transformation for each guest on the show and all of the helpful tips along the way. The process reminds me of the passionate entrepreneur and recognizing the leader within. Watch or listen and let's dive in!
Recently Mark and I watched The Greatest Showman, and I was moved by one of the key songs - "This is Me".
It reminded me of you and stepping up as leaders, so I wanted to drop in and share what came to me.
As you lead your business or organization, it can get noisy and overwhelm can start to creep in.
Lots of information come in from different sources, and you must decipher which ones require your attention to move your vision forward.
Sometimes it can feel like there’s so much happening.
So much information you’re receiving that it’s hard to hear that still small voice inside that’s ultimately guiding you.
Sometimes the information is more noise and not helpful or necessary.
Other times, it’s needed for your business to succeed, but even in those cases, too much data can cause overwhelm.
This doesn’t mean you have to do everything yourself or at that very moment, but it does mean that you must decide if it’s important to do or not do and take action accordingly.
Simply stop, get quiet and get back to basics.
By stopping and taking a moment to calm your mind and block out all the...
You’ve brainstormed and dreamed about new goals and new opportunities you want to achieve.
You’ve written them down and created a plan that you can’t wait to start.
Then slowly but surely, life starts to get in the way.
The actions you mapped out on your plan seem to be getting pushed out versus getting done. The momentum you had for making your goals happen has dwindled. Your schedule that was once one of your favorite tools has become a reminder that you are not doing everything you set out to do.
So what do you do?
It can be easy to beat ourselves up for what we haven’t gotten done or getting off track, but that won’t help. It will only add to the frustration, not make it better.
If you're ready for your next opportunity in your career or even as an entrepreneur who has to pitch a contract, a cover letter will help you bridge your experience to your new potential company. Listen to this video for tips to get your cover letter ready for success and the next step - your interview!
And when it’s a job you really want - the position that's more satisfying, leveraging all of your potential, and increasing your paycheck - the resume and cover letter can feel more like an obstacle, especially if you:
I had a college professor who explained during a lecture that there wasn't just one way to get somewhere. He said there was "the" way like there were many paths you could take to reach your vision or end goal and there was "thuh" way - meaning that there was only one way that would work and all the others were subpar or would even fail to achieve the desired goal.
And as I reflected on that lecture, I realized that this could apply to many things. For instance, in math there are a few ways to get to 10. Such as 5+5, 2+8, and 1+9.
We would all love the direct route, but what typically happens is the curvy, zig-zag path.
You might have one way that you think it ought to be handled, but if you're working with a team and not fully leveraging what they are individually and collectively bringing to the table, then the vision will not be as full and impactful as it could be. By allowing your team the opportunity to...
It’s another day at the office, and it seems like everything that can go wrong has, and you are frustrated. Maybe it seems as though each time you complete an item on your action list, three new items are added. Or perhaps you can see delays in schedule or cost over runs and no sign of improvement. Or perhaps you are short-staffed and do not have a new employee starting anytime soon to help with the workload.
I know I’ve had each of these situations happen before, and I definitely felt frustrated and overwhelmed. It can be easy to let the things that aren’t going well to be all that we see. And when we focus on those frustrations, we tend to see even more of them.
Soon enough, it feels like a continual spiral of overwhelm and frustrations that can be challenging to stop. When that happens, how do you go about changing your perspective?
The answer is easy, but it takes effort and practice.
When you look for the positive, you will start to feel a shift. Not only...
As you lead your organization or business, time becomes a resource that you might feel you don’t ever really have enough of.
There’s always something that needs to be done. Something that requires your attention for the vision to move forward.
Just as some tasks or projects are completed, new ones are added to the list. It can be all too easy to not take a break because it feels like there’s much more to do. And even when you are passionate about what you do, you can still reach a point where taking time out for you would serve you more than continuing to tackle your growing to do list.
When those points come, do you take the break, leave the office or computer and really let your mind rest or is your mind still at work?
What if I said that taking care of yourself needs to be on your priority list and not only when you are reach that breaking point?
It might seem selfish when there’s so much to do and...
Showing up as the confident business leader you're meant to be is a transformation that starts on the inside, and the first step is shifting your mindset. Enroll in the free Leverage Your Potential mini course and start recognizing the leader within you today as well as receive weekly tips and encouragement to keep you going.