So let's talk about something that seems almost contradicting to anyone pursuing their goals, leading their organization or running their business - the fear of success.
That’s a thing.
And if you’re like me, you’ve had to face this fear before, and sometimes it comes back up when you least likely expect it.
If you aren’t sure what this looks like, consider the following:
If you answered “Yes” to any one of these, the fear of success is a likely culprit.
It’s super simple – recognize that it’s there and keep going anyway.
It doesn’t mean...
When we’ve made decisions that didn’t work out, it can start to chip away at our confidence. When that happens, you start to doubt your abilities and instincts and spend more time second guessing new decisions versus making them confidently and moving forward with clear action.
Take out a piece of paper and spend 15 minutes max to write down the times you made decisions that resulted in successful outcomes.
Write down how you felt before you made that decision and after.
Did you feel a deep knowing on the inside that this decision was right for you?
Did you feel excited because you KNEW it was right and you were so full of joy that you were proud of yourself?
Did you feel a sense of peace when making that decision? Or after? Even when the decision you made caused you to step out of your comfort zone? Or when you were saying no?
Sometimes it’s easier to see the successful decisions when you feel excited or good about them, but those decisions where you said no and...
It seems that we go through various cycles in our life of mastering something and then starting over as the student.
When we start a new job, even if it's with the same company or group of people, or transition from the corporate world and into our own business, there are new responsibilities, processes, and systems for us to learn.
Each time we try something new, we are breaking out of our comfort zones.
Sometimes it's not a matter of trying something new, but rather breaking a system that made sense at one time and now no longer serves us.
At that point, we have a choice – we can choose to view change as positive growth instead of negative or scary.
We can choose to stay where we are or to rise to the next level and allow ourselves to be the student once more. It’s easy to stay where we are because it’s comfortable and known.
So, what can you do to better prepare for the next level?
The first step is to...
How do you know if you're diluting your vision?
he first step is to get clear on what your vision for yourself, your business or organization, your life is.
Whatever that is.
What do you want to feel, do, achieve, or be?
Where do you want your organization or business to be at the end of the year? In a year from now? In 5 years from now?
Not watering it down because it feels overwhelming.
Not downsizing or downplaying it because it’s so big it’s uncomfortable.
Not playing small because it’s easier than digging deeper to do the work necessary to move you forward to a new level of leadership and closer to your vision for your organization or business.
With that being said, here are four statements to ask yourself, and if you answer “Yes” to any of them, then you are diluting your vision.
Today’s chat was inspired by one of my all time favorite books – The Magic of Thinking Big by Dr. David J. Schwartz.
So my parents gave me this copy when I was in high school, and I’ve re-read it many many times since. It’s about a growth mindset. Having a mindset that says I can figure it out or I am more than capable.
If you haven’t read this book, I hope you’ll check it out, but in the mean time – are you thinking big enough?
Meaning – are you brainstorming and whole heartedly pursuing goals that are exciting, audacious, meaningful and scary at the same time?
Do they push you out of your comfort zone?
Another way to think big is to day dream. What would just be amazing for you if it happened?
Don’t just keep these ideas in your head – write them down.
Take out a piece of paper and for 15 minutes, just brain dump everything that comes to your mind of what would be amazing to accomplish, do, have, or experience.
Regardless if the vision is for a specific situation - like an event or project - or for something larger like your business or organization or company, to be able to effectively drive change and lead, you must buy-in into the vision.
Your team and clients are looking to you to be excited about the vision and help them to understand it and why it's important.
If you're tasking others with projects or responsibilities that are intended to drive the vision forward, but your heart isn't in it, your team will know. Not only will this make it more challenging for your team to effectively do their jobs, it will create pressure on them to help you get on board with the vision, when it's really the other way around.
Your job is to remove the barriers for your team, and if you aren't fully bought into the vision, then it's essentially adding a barrier for your team to overcome.
It's a barrier you need to remove, but once you do, your team and clients will feel the difference. They may...
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